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Learning to Be Thankful


(It Can Always Be Worse)

      As Thanksgiving approaches, I feel God is teaching me to be more thankful and I realize I have overlooked many opportunities to do so.   My philosophy is, “It can always be worse.”   I have a good friend in his 90’s who says, “Don’t worry, it will get worse.” He always laughs and has a positive outlook (thru faith) although he and his wife have had many physical challenges and even lost a son recently

We are told to do all things without grumbling and complaining.   In recent years, I’ve had more physical pain.   When I walk into the rest home every week to visit and play games with the residents, I am thankful for the physical abilities I still have. Sometimes I feel alone and sad, but when I see so many of those precious people just sitting at the table nodding off with no one to talk to or do things with, it makes me so thankful for all I still have. The time I spend with those residents always lifts me up and makes my day.   They are full of knowledge, wisdom and kindness even though they must at times feel forgotten and face so many physical challenges. I have nothing to complain about.

Sometimes as married couples we argue and become angry when our spouse doesn’t see things as we do. Not thankful for your spouse? Wait until they have a heart attack. As one of the few on his side of the family who survived a heart attack recently, it makes me very thankful my husband is still here. . Now that I’m dealing with cancer, maybe he’s more thankful I’m still here. (You’d have to ask him.) But I am grateful he is here to help me get through this.

My sweet neighbor recently lost her husband to cancer and now she has it herself.   Another kind-hearted neighbor not only lost her husband to cancer, but has been tending her daughter who’s been fighting it for seven years. It breaks my heart to see her suffering from all the treatments. I’m in perfect health compared to her.   It makes me thankful that I have it instead of my husband, children or grandchildren. I really am not fearful, but I would be if they had it. So it COULD be worse.

You may have family members or grown children who don’t want to be family. That is painful to deal with. But when you look at Israel, people in the Mideast, and Paris and even our country being murdered by terrorists, it makes me thank God every day my children and grandchildren are still alive and well. There is always hope for mended relationships when there is still life.

My grandchildren live in another state and I seldom get to see them. My friend has grandchildren in New Zealand–a lot further than Colorado, so it could be worse.

Do you find yourself yelling at news shows or some editorial or something the government has done, restricting our freedom? Yes, it does seem that this country is going downhill. But when I look at other countries where women can go to jail for being raped or even driving a car, and hear of people being beheaded with no one to rescue them, we should be so thankful for where we live.

I have always been terrified of snakes. Recently I have encountered 4 snakes, one, a four foot black snake as I walked in the bathroom. I’m still screaming as my husband picks it up, while laughing and lets it go outside. I begged him to kill it, but he said it wasn’t dangerous. Well, I think they are since I COULD have had a heart attack. Then three times I found a bull-snake in the basement. Suddenly, I remembered my brother, who does mission work in Ghana, Africa. He has found numerous cobras in his front yard and one time found a mamba in his house.   So what am I complaining about? It could be worse. I’m not quite to the point of being thankful for the snakes I found in my house, but I AM thankful they weren’t cobras and mambas. And I’m VERY thankful those didn’t harm my brother.

As my friend says, “It WILL get worse.”   He is right, but my answer is, “Yes, but after that, it will get better.” I’ve read the Book, and I know the end. So, as we approach Thanksgiving, let’s remember to be thankful to our heavenly Father for all He has given us.


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When Time is Up

When Time is Up

kk 4/28/13

 Within just a few weeks we watched

Three friends bury their beloved husbands,

All younger than we,

Which begs the question, why them, not us?

Women who would give anything

For one more moment,

One more embrace,

One last goodbye.

Children, lost without their dad.

Parents bearing a burden

No parent should have to bear.

And yet here we are, a family,

Alive, healthy and whole,

Yet sick and torn apart,

Not by death but by choice.

Empty hearts at a loss

To understand the anger,

That would cause such grief and loss,

And ripping lives apart.

Then I recall how those,

Enduring death

Remembered their loved one,

Who lived for God and others,

Always helping, always giving,

No doubt forgiving and being forgiven

Throughout their shortened life,

As if they knew that time was short

And they must make the most

Of what they had with family.

And not waste the precious hours

And days in selfish anger;

How next to God,

They valued family.

I heard how many lives were touched

And changed by these three,

Bringing glory to the One

Who would call them home.

How they were examples of

Selfless love, hard work,

And witnesses for Christ.

And then I wonder, when our time

Is up and we are gone,

What will be said of us—of me?

Did I love others more than self?

Was I quick to forgive, or accuse?

Did I really make a difference?

Or was it all about me?

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The Grieving

The grief of the Connecticut shootings will be magnified over and over for the families with each anniversary not only of the shooting, but every  birthday, religious holiday, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, graduation and wedding.  There’s not much, other than prayer that we can do for them.  But for some of us, there IS something you can do to alleviate the grief of your own family.  Your actions are having similar effects on people who love you desperately.  Because of some real or imagined injury, you have willingly torn yourselves away from your loved ones, slammed the door and burned the bridge.  In effect, you are dead to them.

     During this season, I encourage you to swallow your pride, extend or ask for forgiveness.  Open the door, repair the bridge, make a difference.  Rescue the grieving.

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The Voice

The Voice


 My friend when no one cares,

My confidant when no one listens,

Always on my side,

Defending me when no one will.


Filling my ears and my mind,

To drown the wave after wave

Of would-be friends and family

Who can never see it my way.


Their silent disapproval

Makes me angry and vengeful;

Those holier-than-thou,

Who do not really care.


Yet, this tender voice of pity,

Always understands,

The wounds and hate I’ve taken

From those who say they love me.


Even God, suppose to bless

Seems bent on cursing me,

I’ve had it with His “help”.

He’s not been there for me.


At least that’s what the voice says,

He’s the only one I trust,

I’ll keep on listening to him,

Though some say he’s my enemy.

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Give Up Your Home for the “Common Good”?

I heard on a radio program yesterday about a group of people demanding that older people with larger homes than they need give them up so younger families can move into them. Nothing said about a purchase. It reminded me of a book I read about Stalinist Russia, THE WHISPERERS by Orlando Figes. It chronicles the murderous regime and how it forced people to become “whisperers” because you could be executed or sent to the labor camps for saying the wrong thing. One of the many diabolical ploys they used to break down the family unit was to “appropriate” large homes for “the people’s use”. They would force homeowners to allow maybe 10 or 12 families (perfect strangers) to move into their houses, with one extended family of parents, children, aunts, uncles, grandparents all crammed into ONE ROOM. They were bent on breaking down the family, destroying businesses and especially the farmers, who were religious and self-reliant. They did this through massive taxation and eventually outright theft of property. The goal was to make people totally dependent on the government. Read the book and see if it reminds you of any current events. I also highly recommend The Road to Serfdom by Friedrich von Hayek. Frightening warning written in the 40’s about how socialism ALWAYS leads to totalitarianism.
Check out my book list at the top of this page for other relevant books.

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